Shibari BDSM Couples Boudoir Session | Eastern Iowa Boudoir Photographer
Shibari BDSM Couples Boudoir Session
Eastern Iowa Kink-Friendly Boudoir Photographer
Hair & Makeup by Shea B
Recently I got to do a shoot near and dear to my heart, since shibari is so beautiful to me! I love working with fellow creatives and friends, and I got to do it all at once for this session! My colleague has had this pastel rope for a while and I’ve been dying to collaborate with her and shoot with it! She prefers to remain anonymous, so I will refer to her as Mistress K.
Miss B was one of my first ever clients and one of my Brand Ambassadors in the early days of my business. She is actually how I met Kasie, who became my assistant and is now my amazing boyfriend and associate. We’ve all three had some crazy fun times together and this was especially fun! Miss A has her own blog coming soon and let me tell y’all, you aren’t ready for all the booty pics I got of her. Since I met miss A, her butt has been the topic of many conversations between Kasie, Miss B and I. We know a good booty when we see one, and all of us still look over any time Miss A wears leggings! I’m a hype girl in so many ways, I will never hesitate to tell my friends when their booties are looking good.
I love being able to explore with posing using props, so when Mistress K had the idea to tie her to a ceiling hook I was so excited! My short self wouldn’t have even thought about doing that. Seeing the dynamic between the two was such a blast, as it usually is working with couples.
I’m always trying to expand my knowledge, and I recently watched a video on how subtle body language can change the scene completely especially when involving kinky themes. So much as how someone is standing can set them apart as dominant or submissive, and knowing those little things so you can direct your clients is so important. With couples, I try to direct as little as possible, but by no means do I expect them to know how to pose. I prefer to get them into a general pose and/or action, tell them simple queues for when they get into the pose and let them take it from there.
This was also my first time shooting in the new studio, and while we didn’t have the tub ready I’m happy we didn’t because the extra space was much more important! In case you didn’t know this about me, my favorite part about setting up the studio is deciding where I want my plants at. I love bringing them from all over the house!
What does Shibari mean?
A Shibari session can be thought of as a power exchange which develops through the use of ropes. The person who ties, commonly known as the rigger, restrains his or her partner, known as the model, according to the emotional and physical reactions observed.
Shibari devotees enjoy the way that the elaborate rope designs and the material's rugged texture contrasts with smooth skin and its simple curves. Some have likened the model to a canvas, and the rigger to an artist who uses rope instead of a brush and paint.
Shibari ropes and knots are also strategically positioned to stimulate the body's pressure points, almost like a Shiatsu massage. The model typically derives pleasure from ties across their breasts, genitals, and other erogenous zones. In some cases, the model is also stimulated by whipping or beating tools. Shibari is often used in conjunction with suspension bondage. Shibari sessions often involve intercourse, but this isn't always the case.
Traditionalists believe the practice of Shibari can stimulate Ki energy flow and transfer. It’s also possible for the model to enter a trance-like state as their endorphins and other hormone levels increase. The term "rope drunk" has been used to describe the state of a model recovering from a Shibari session.
Kinkly, What is Shibari?
Kinkly is a great resource for learning new kink terms. I know it’s not for everyone, and that’s okay! I definitely was uncomfortable when I was first introduced to BDSM. That’s the beauty about being uncomfortable, it’s a chance for you to learn and grow. There is a certain grace to being able to be open-minded, to learn without judgement. It’s okay to learn and then learn that hey, maybe that’s not for me- or maybe you learn that it is for you.
Above all, let go of the bondage that is shame around the things that you were told was wrong. If it’s between two consenting adults, and it’s safe, sane and consensual, then it can be an amazing way to explore yourself and find out new things you may or may not enjoy.
If this makes you uncomfortable, embrace it. Examine it. Do you have some shame you’re holding onto? Want support? Boudoir by Lexy has a variety of groups on Facebook focused on bringing the femme-identifying community together. Check out our sex & body positive group here!
Have you been interested in having your own edgy experience? Do you have some crazy ideas you don’t think you’ll ever find the right photographer for? I get so many inquiries telling me that they got shamed from other photographers and literally nothing makes me more upset than hearing that. Here at Boudoir by Lexy you will not get that treatment. We want to give you an amazing self-love experience, let you embrace your kinky self and push creative limits together. Let’s talk about your crazy idea, I bet I’ll be crazy about shooting it! Contact me to book your session today!
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Once again, I wanted to thank my amazing friend and colleague Mistress K, who shot alongside Kasie and I, as well as did the amazing rope work you see in this blog! Last year Kasie and I traveled to Chicago to attend and photograph Exxxotica (I swear, I WILL blog that eventually! There’s just so many images and words I wanna say!) and it was so eye opening! Since then, I’ve had my own spiritual and sensual enlightenment and really embraced so many aspects of myself I used to push down. It’s hard to let go of those shameful little secrets that what we’re raised being shamed or put down for. It’s so easy to run away from our true selves, denying that scary part about ourselves. It’s easy to project those feelings on others if you haven’t done the growing you need to do to get past your own stigmas. I’m not saying that everyone needs to explore BDSM and kink, but I think some common education and understanding goes a long way. We fear what we don’t know, but we are truly so much better than that.
That being said, I’m excited to share some of my favorite resources. I’m sure a simple google search can bring up a lot of info, but to get someone started without being overwhelmed by information I would recommend these resources below:
Loving BDSM - Podcast, Youtube (One of my FAVORITE podcasts!)